Forgotten Sunan of Family
FORGOTTEN SUNAN WITH SPOUSE
Reciting the Dua before Intercourse
The Messenger ﷺ said: “When one of you wants to approach his wife, if he says (the below) If it is then decreed that they have a child (from that intercourse), Satan will never harm it. ”
“Bismillah, Allahumma jannib nash-Shaytan, wa jannib ish-Shaytana ma razaqtana
With the Name of Allah, O Allah, keep Satan away from us, & keep him away from what You grant us
Being Gentle and beautifying oneself for the Spouse
Jabir said, “So when we were about to enter the city, the Prophet ﷺ said to me, ‘Slow down, & enter at night, so that she who has not combed may comb her hair, and she who has not shaved may shave her private area.’ Then he said to me, ‘When you enter upon her, then be wise and gentle.’” [Agreed upon].
Doing Wudoo if one intends to do it again.
“If one of you approaches his wife, and then wishes to repeat, let him do wudhu, for it will make the recurrence more energetic” [Abu Dawud].
General Act of passion from the Sunnah
A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) says: “The Messenger of Allah ﷺ would kiss me before leaving for prayers, and he would not perform an ablution.” (Sunan al-Darqutni, 1/49 and others)
Leaning & Sleeping in their Laps
‘A’isha – May Allah be pleased with her – said: the Prophet ﷺ used to lean on my lap while I am menstruating and read Quran. (Al-Bukhari)
Saying words of Love
Amr ibn al-‘As (ra) asked the Prophet ﷺ, “Who do you love the most?” Thinking that he would be named, Prophet Muhammad replied in unusual honesty “`Aisha!” Any modern man who dared mention his feelings for his wife would feel like a pansy.
Spending Quality time
Aisha (R.A.) said, “….After finishing the Prayer (night Prayer) he used to look at me and if I was awake he would talk to me and if I was asleep, he would lie down.(Bukhari)
With parents its almost Fard and the things being seen nowadays it’s the basic rules being broken like being disrespectful to parents, shouting at them etc.
Being the best with Parents
Now we see that most men are best with either their friends or with their wives but ﷺ said our Parents, deserves our best!
Once a companion (may Allah be pleased with him) asked the Prophet ﷺ as to whom he should show more kindness. The Prophet ﷺ replied: “Your mother.” He (may Allah be pleased with him) asked who comes next and the Prophet ﷺ again replied: “Your mother.” He (may Allah be pleased with him) asked the Prophet ﷺ yet again who comes next. The Prophet ﷺ replied: “Your mother.” When the companion asked for the fourth time, only then did the Prophet ﷺ reply: “Your father.”
We have forgotten that what a great deed it is to be kind to our Parents
‘Abdullaah Ibn Mas’ood (RA) said: “I asked the Prophet ﷺ which deed is most liked by Allah? He ﷺ said: ‘Prayer offered on time.’ I asked him: ‘Then what? He ﷺ said: ‘Kindness and respect towards parents.’…” [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]
That Paradise can be earned by serving ones Parent(s)
The Prophet ﷺ has observed : ”Let that man be disgraced, and disgraced again and let him be disgraced even more.” The people enquired: “O Prophet of God (peace and blessings of Allah be upon you) who is that man?” The Prophet of Allah ﷺ affirmed: “I refer to the man who finds his parents old in age – both of them or one of them – and yet did not earn entitlement to Paradise by rendering good service to them.” [Muslim]
Being good with the loved ones (relatives and friends) of one’s father
Allah’s Apostle ﷺ said: The finest act of goodness is that a person should treat kindly the loved ones of his father. (Sahih Muslim)
FORGOTTEN SUNAN WITH CHILDREN
Being Proud for being a Father of Daughters
The Prophet ﷺ has affirmed: “The man who patronizes three daughters or three sisters, educates them and teaches them good manners and behaves kindly towards them till they become independent of his care by the will of Allah , is entitled by Allah to enter Paradise.” Thereupon a person submitted: “If there be only two daughters or two sisters?’ The Prophet ﷺ affirmed: “The same reward will be given for similar conduct towards two daughters or two sisters”. (Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan in his Saheeh, 2/190)*
Dua’as to protect oneself and one’s children from Evil eye, Black Magic/Jinn and Harm
Unfortunately, due to lack of knowledge people end up adopting non-islamic ways and methods to protect themselves from the above mentioned. Some indulge in amulets (Taweedh) whereas some indulge in amuleta (Taweedh), some end up lining up outsome some Baba’s shrine or etc. All of these practises has no basis in islam.
Ibn Abbas reported: The Prophet ﷺ, would seek refuge for Hasan and Hussein, saying, “Verily, your forefather would seek refuge for Ishmael and Isaac. I seek refuge in the perfect words of Allah from every devil and scourge and every harmful eye.” [Source: Sahih Bukhari 3191]
There are many Duas that can be found in the book Hisnul Muslim.
FORGOTTEN SUNAN WITH RELATIVES
Sunah of being kind and helpful to relatives
It is related by Anas that the Apostle of God said: “Whoever wants an increase in his sustenance and that the marks of his feet remained for a long time in the world, i.e., he lived long should be kind and helpful to his relatives.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
Family quarrels, which generally arise from the disregard of the relatives’ rights, affect a persons health and causes friction in homes and in the community at large. Those who treat their relatives well and are helpful to them, are free from tensions and they are happier and more peaceful.
SubhaanAllah nowadays it is so common to see that there are relatives who do not meet each other for years and years severing the kinship ties.
When the Prophet ﷺ has said, “Whoever violates the rights of kinship shall not go Heaven.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
Being kind to the Relatives who are mean with him/her
It is related by Abdullah bin Omar that the Apostle of God said: “He does not fulfill the claim of Silah-i-Rahmi who shows kindness to relatives in return for the kindness shown to him (by them). The person who, really, fulfils the claim is he who treats his relatives well (and does this duty) even when they are mean and unjust to him (and infringe on his rights).” (Bukhari)
A man asked: O Messenger of Allaah ﷺ, I have relatives with whom I maintain ties of relations, yet they cut-off from me. I treat them kindly, yet they treat me in an evil manner. And I am forbearing and patient with them, yet they behave rudely and ignorantly towards me. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: “If the situation is as you say, then it is as if you are filling their mouths with sand. And Allaah will continue to aid and support you as long as you continue doing what you are doing.” (Sahih Muslim).
Charity to Poor Relatives
Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “Charity towards a poor person is charity, and towards a relation is both charity and maintaining the ties (of kinship)“.(Tirmidhi)
Relatives have the first right for our charities.
Waking Family for night prayer
The Prophet ﷺ said: “May Allaah have mercy on a man who gets up at night and prays, then he wakes up his wife to pray, and if she refuses he throws water in her face.” (Reported by Ahmad).
The Prophet ﷺ said: “Allaah will ask every shepherd (or responsible person) about his flock (those for whom he was responsible), whether he took care of it or neglected it, until He asks a man about his household.” (Reported by al-Nisaa’i, 292).
To enter a house by saying Assalamu ‘Alaykum or its Likes.
Allah says ” When you enter the houses, greet one another with a greeting from Allâh (i.e. say: As-Salâmu ‘Alaikum – peace be on you) blessed and good.” (al-Noor 24:61)
‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar said, “When someone enters a house which is not lived in, he should say, ‘Peace be upon the righteous slaves of Allah. (Assalamu ‘Alyna wa ‘Ala ‘Ibaadillahis Saaliheen) [ Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1055 , Hassan]